1. Support your Player.
This means positively reinforcing and recognizing the efforts of the player. Think of the way you want to be treated at work, if you are constantly receiving criticism about the way you do your job, it is likely that your passion and love for what you do is going to be affected negatively. Your kids are no different. Give them something to build their confidence and let them know that all you expect from them is their best effort. If the player gives their best effort, and the coach focuses on the fundamentals – the results will come. So praise the effort!
2. Show them the fun of Youth Sports
Focus on the fun of youth sports and work with your child at home. We are all busy, but spending a little time with your player is of the utmost importance. Take ten minutes out of your busy day to play catch, shoot hoops or bump the volleyball in the backyard. Do this everyday, and youʼll see your player improve faster. Youʼll also build a stronger sports bond with your player. Besides, its not as easy as you might think, and you could probably use the practice yourself! Donʼt forget the treats on game day – even older players like an after game treat. Healthier choices are better, but I prefer Chocolate Chip Cookies.
3. Support the Coach
Your job as a parent is NOT to coach your kid from the sidelines on game day. Your job is to cheer for the team and pass out high fives when something great happens. However, if you have an interest in helping or coaching, let your coach know that youʼd be willing to assist. Too many cooks in the kitchen can spoil the soup, but every coach needs a hand from time to time. Talk to your coach and see what you can do to help.
Not happy with your coach? – If you think you can do a better job, GREAT! – but wait for next season. Give your coach the respect he deserves for taking the lead role this season. Use this season to take some notes for when you assume the coaching role next season. Lastly – make sure your player is on time and attentive to what the coach is doing.
Some parents make the mistake of thinking that the result of their child’s youth sports event, somehow reflects on their success as a parent. As if winning a youth sports contest means their doing a good job as a parent. WRONG! Your success as a parent is reflected in your child by their attentiveness, respect, and effort they show in their activities. Coachable kid = Good Job Mom and Dad.